Lent 2015

Today sees the start of lent. Lent is traditionally seen as 40 days representing the 40 days Jesus spent in the desert. It starts on Ash Wednesday and ends on Easter Sunday. For those of you who have just done the calculation, yes that does work out as 46 days but traditionally Sundays were exempt (so 46 days minus the 6 Sundays).

Over the years I have given up a number of things for Lent. I have given up chocolate, fizzy pop, meat, and wearing jeans to name just a few. This year I have decided to do something different. Instead of giving something up I am planning on doing an act of kindness everyday for 40 days.

In the run up to today I have spent hours researching Random Acts of Kindness (RAOK) and amassed over 12 pages of ideas. While doing my research I was surprised at some of the items that were listed. Things like “Smile at a stranger” “Let people merge into your lane in traffic” and “Donate to a foodbank” There were a lot of items on the list that I do anyway and was surprised that they would need to be listed.

While I was surprised at the content of some of the lists it did teach me a lesson. I had in my mind that a RAOK had to be a big thing but actually it doesn’t. It can be as simple as making another person smile.:)

In recognition of this my first act of kindness was spending the day sending silly photos of myself and the kiddies to my sister who lives away. She has text me to tell me that the photos have made her smile all day so I guess I can take that as a win 🙂

Have you ever done a RAOK? Or been on the receiving end of one? If so what was it?

BFF’s??? Possibly

I love the fact that I am Little Lady’s best friend. Even when she is cross with me, the worst thing she can say is “you’re not my best friend anymore!” So I can still be her friend, just not her best friend! I think I can cope with that!

At the beginning of the week I was lucky enough to get this

A handmade picture of me and little lady in a heart, standing next to a ginormous flower and she is saying to me “I love you” 😀 how lovely is that?

So after reading about team Pugh’s Acts of Kindness I decided I would write her a note back. It makes me smile so much when I get a note like that, that I wanted to make little lady smile too.

So while she was in school I wrote her a note complete with a very lifelike(!) picture of the two of us

And left it on her bed.

Later she came home from school and asked to play upstairs. A couple of minutes later little lady called down the stairs:
“Mam, you know this note on my bed?”
*smiling smugly* “yes sweety”
“You did it wrong!”
*jaw drops to the floor* “what?”
“You didn’t draw a flower on it and I like flowers”
“Don’t you think it was a nice note though?”
“Well you didn’t draw a flower on it!” *throws note down the stairs* “you’ve got to put a flower on it cos I like flowers”

A well and truly told off mammy duly drew a flower on the note and sent it back upstairs for approval!

Moral of the story – you can’t please 6 year olds 😉

BEDN #13 World Kindness Day

Oh dear! I missed the weekend of blogging every day in November. We have been a poorly household but I will try to catch up on some of the topics I missed.

Today, however is World Kindness Day. Shame I hadn’t realised beforehand as I would have been a bit more prepared. But I am the most disorganised person I know. I constantly forget things and sit up late the night before doing/making/finishing because I haven’t left myself enough time. 

Anyway today’s post is not about that. I want to tell you about a Random Act Of Kindness I experienced in the summer. Back when it happened I promised myself that I would “pay forward” this RAOK and do someone nice for someone else. I am sad to say I haven’t done that yet. I do try to be kind, I baked cakes for my cousin when she was going through a tough time, I try to ask people how they are and listen to their answer even if i don’t really know them all that well. 

I try to set a good example to little lady in particular. We regularly buy presents at Christmas for children in care, we pack shoeboxes to send abroad (Serbia this year) to children who are not likely to get anything for Christmas. Doing these things make me feel happy. Happy knowing that I can do something, however small, to make someone else’s life a bit easier. Have you seen the Friends episode where Phoebe tries to find a selfless good deed? It’s quite funny but also true as being kind to others usually makes me feel good about myself. 

Every summer there is a big festival held in my local town called the Big Cheese. There are food stalls, craft stalls, medieval reenactments, and a funfair. The funfair is sooo expensive we tend to avoid that. Thankfully little lady has always been easily distracted by the fact the castle is open (and it’s free to get in) so we spend time in there until she forgets. This year, instead of walking in as little lady would actually have to walk it now her brother is in the pram, we used the park and ride. We pulled up to the school, parked our car and started to walk over to where the buses are. As we went to cross the car park a man in a car stopped, rolled down his window and asked if we were on our way to the Big Cheese. Silly question I thought as this is only used as a park and ride for that purpose. After saying yes we were he handed us a little booklet and told us that his son was worn out and they were ours if we wanted them. When I looked the booklet contained tickets for 5 free rides on the funfair. I was gobsmacked. Those rides are £3-5 each. Before I could say thank you they had driven off. Little lady had so much fun on the rides and we didn’t have to pay for them. It really made our day. That family were so kind to give them to us and we didn’t even say a proper thank you. I’m sure, having their own child, they would know how grateful we would have been when we realised what was in the booklet.

I now need to decide what my RAOK is going to be. Any suggestions gratefully received.